I do not think it means what you think it means



I think maybe it’s time to have a little word about democracy.

I appreciate that feelings are running high but I think some people are perhaps waving the wrong end of a very splintery stick about what democracy means. So let’s start by sorting out what it DOESN’T mean.

Democracy isn’t a bloody game of Monopoly. It isn’t like a bloody football match. It’s not about winners and losers. If your team lost their match then that’s tough I understand, but it doesn’t result in years, even decades of financial uncertainty, and reductions in freedoms, for millions of people. Lost jobs and lost opportunities.

What happened to the markets on Friday is just the start. The democratic right you just exercised will have dire economic consequences for all those people and it is not about feeling a bit gloomy for a few days.

Democracy is not consequence-free.

Democracy is where decisions…

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I do not think it means what you think it means

  I think maybe it’s time to have a little word about democracy. I appreciate that feelings are running high but I think some people are perhaps waving the wrong end of a very splintery …

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Transitioning due to transitioning

Transitioning is difficult, but no so much within itself, but within the rigid set up we have in society, gender carries such strong conatations for men and women, at times these are negative, at times positive,  but rarely are they chosen, rather we are told, rather it is implied, women would do this, men would do that, it’s all back to front, it needs to be the individuals choice, of what feels good for them, and we really need to get over this gender crisis, yes a gender crisis, not “Men struggle in todays world”, not women struggle in todays world”, but that we all need to chill out, we are human beings, silly, kooky, individuals with individual needs, not some massive ant colony where certain sections are workers, others potential queens.

For somebody to transition m2f or f2m there are likely other transitions new job, new friends. New regimes, new places where they can feel safe, new bank details, new passport details, why the exra fuss?

Transitioning is an issue, but more it is an issue compounded by social constructs.

9 out of 10 men prefer wearing trousers

Lies, damn lies and statistics

Communication, and as humans, we generally wear clothes, and so clothes become a form of communication, and so we say if you’re born with a vagina then you can wear skirts, dresses, trousers, indeed you have freedom to communicate, and then don’t worry about the guy who likes what you’re saying but you won’t communicate with him…. So men are frustrated when it comes to communication, because if you’re born with a penis you only like wearing trousers and top…. but why? who tells you? Your Dad or your mum? or society…



wait a second…. Why is anybody telling you what you can or can’t wear? are they fascists? are they excited because we all know communication is important and they are trying to frustrate your communication, ahhhh, well, now… hold on…. Men don’t like communicating!!!! Wahhhhhhhh


Men don’t like communicating, men don’t like wearing dresses?!?!?!?!?!?



Who gives a **** what you think men do or don’t like.


You have nothing to do with this conversation, you took yourself out of this conversation a long long time ago, and you are dead, you are the Dodo and I have no interest in rescuing you.


You accept the smothering of mens freedom of expression, you tell men what they’re like, what they like, then men play up to the stereotypes, then you point the finger at men and decide that they’re all bad.


You are nothing to do with anything, you are blind and dumb and I am embarrassed to exist anywhere near you.


Dreading summer

I am dreading summer.


People will be out in their favourite summer clothes, feeling free and emancipated.


I will not be allowed to feel comfortable to wear my flighty summer dress.


Yes I am a practised Transgendered individual, I have my own style and ….


Well, look, I am allowed to be transgender, because the way I do it, I’m not overtly flashy, not overtly blingy, not overtly sexually dressed, hell my hero’s would be like Emma Peel, cos she was cool and she dressed great.


I’m acceptable and presentable, but me, with my somewhat masculine body, dressed in a flighty summer dress, I am terrified.

Do I blog about being trans?

I don’t know if I do…. I write on forums sometimes…


All my blogs start with “At Work”, as I came out at work and it has firmly remained my most open playground.


Responses have been largely positive 🙂


My favourite is from an Indian woman, who’s a manager and she is… well she comes accross youthful, she wears rather blingy thingy’s. She has moved department and has come to where I work, and their are just awkdard moments, not really the trans thing at all, but just when two people are not overly familiar with each other yet, and she keeps appearing from around the corner and so jokingly I said, “Hey! you keep watching me”, she took it serious, I smiled and said, no, I just wish we were busier and I put my arm around her as we walked along and the we disengaged the arm around the shoulder and went about our business.


There was no asking of awkward questions, just a really simple easy to work with working relationship… I respect her and she shows respect towards me 🙂



Double edged sword

Our spirit obtained
Media representation
Some wins but some vain
Like Carly Simon’s refrain

A double, edged sword

The world 🌍 won’t keep our mouths shut

We’re speaking on the radio 📻,
We’re speaking T.V

And we hear ourselves
Sound like humans
Not just reflected sexual indentites

Po litical entrancing the crowd
We’re all just like you
When all is told

Reign in now, no more
The world 🌍 to see us
In the raw
Humanoids speaking with a
Different voice
But smart and humourous
All the same
It serves no good to tell us be tame.