Transitioning due to transitioning

Transitioning is difficult, but no so much within itself, but within the rigid set up we have in society, gender carries such strong conatations for men and women, at times these are negative, at times positive,  but rarely are they chosen, rather we are told, rather it is implied, women would do this, men would do that, it’s all back to front, it needs to be the individuals choice, of what feels good for them, and we really need to get over this gender crisis, yes a gender crisis, not “Men struggle in todays world”, not women struggle in todays world”, but that we all need to chill out, we are human beings, silly, kooky, individuals with individual needs, not some massive ant colony where certain sections are workers, others potential queens.

For somebody to transition m2f or f2m there are likely other transitions new job, new friends. New regimes, new places where they can feel safe, new bank details, new passport details, why the exra fuss?

Transitioning is an issue, but more it is an issue compounded by social constructs.

9 out of 10 men prefer wearing trousers

Lies, damn lies and statistics

Communication, and as humans, we generally wear clothes, and so clothes become a form of communication, and so we say if you’re born with a vagina then you can wear skirts, dresses, trousers, indeed you have freedom to communicate, and then don’t worry about the guy who likes what you’re saying but you won’t communicate with him…. So men are frustrated when it comes to communication, because if you’re born with a penis you only like wearing trousers and top…. but why? who tells you? Your Dad or your mum? or society…

 

 

wait a second…. Why is anybody telling you what you can or can’t wear? are they fascists? are they excited because we all know communication is important and they are trying to frustrate your communication, ahhhh, well, now… hold on…. Men don’t like communicating!!!! Wahhhhhhhh

 

Men don’t like communicating, men don’t like wearing dresses?!?!?!?!?!?

 

 

Who gives a **** what you think men do or don’t like.

 

You have nothing to do with this conversation, you took yourself out of this conversation a long long time ago, and you are dead, you are the Dodo and I have no interest in rescuing you.

 

You accept the smothering of mens freedom of expression, you tell men what they’re like, what they like, then men play up to the stereotypes, then you point the finger at men and decide that they’re all bad.

 

You are nothing to do with anything, you are blind and dumb and I am embarrassed to exist anywhere near you.

 

Dreading summer

I am dreading summer.

 

People will be out in their favourite summer clothes, feeling free and emancipated.

 

I will not be allowed to feel comfortable to wear my flighty summer dress.

 

Yes I am a practised Transgendered individual, I have my own style and ….

 

Well, look, I am allowed to be transgender, because the way I do it, I’m not overtly flashy, not overtly blingy, not overtly sexually dressed, hell my hero’s would be like Emma Peel, cos she was cool and she dressed great.

 

I’m acceptable and presentable, but me, with my somewhat masculine body, dressed in a flighty summer dress, I am terrified.

Do I blog about being trans?

I don’t know if I do…. I write on forums sometimes…

 

All my blogs start with “At Work”, as I came out at work and it has firmly remained my most open playground.

 

Responses have been largely positive:)

 

My favourite is from an Indian woman, who’s a manager and she is… well she comes accross youthful, she wears rather blingy thingy’s. She has moved department and has come to where I work, and their are just awkdard moments, not really the trans thing at all, but just when two people are not overly familiar with each other yet, and she keeps appearing from around the corner and so jokingly I said, “Hey! you keep watching me”, she took it serious, I smiled and said, no, I just wish we were busier and I put my arm around her as we walked along and the we disengaged the arm around the shoulder and went about our business.

 

There was no asking of awkward questions, just a really simple easy to work with working relationship… I respect her and she shows respect towards me:)

 

 

Double edged sword

Our spirit obtained
Media representation
Some wins but some vain
Like Carly Simon’s refrain

A double, edged sword

The world 🌍 won’t keep our mouths shut

We’re speaking on the radio 📻,
We’re speaking T.V

And we hear ourselves
Sound like humans
Not just reflected sexual indentites

Po litical entrancing the crowd
We’re all just like you
When all is told

Reign in now, no more
The world 🌍 to see us
In the raw
Humanoids speaking with a
Different voice
But smart and humourous
All the same
It serves no good to tell us be tame.

Dancing on the tables

Dancing 🎶 on the tables
In my gold glittering pumps
Down at the Lexo!
Dancing 🎶 on the tables
Swinging from the gables
Having a whale 🐳
Down at the Lexo
Down at the Lexo

In my dreams

Truth is I’m a shadow passing through life
Only Such a life in my imagination

Bandcamp, Downloads, Streaming, and the Inescapably Bright Future

Bandcamp Daily

In light of a recent report that Apple will soon abandon music downloads (later denied, but undoubtedly containing a certain amount of inevitability), we thought we’d take a moment to update you on the state of Bandcamp’s business and our plans for the future.

Bandcamp grew by 35% last year. Fans pay artists $4.3 million dollars every month using the site, and they buy about 25,000 records a day, which works out to about one every 4 seconds (you can see a real-time feed of those purchases on our desktop home page). Nearly 6 million fans have bought music through Bandcamp (half of whom are younger than 30), and hundreds of thousands of artists have sold music on Bandcamp. Digital album sales on Bandcamp grew 14% in 2015 while dropping 3% industry-wide, track sales grew 11% while dropping 13% industry-wide, vinyl was up 40%, cassettes 49%… even CD sales…

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